Dear fellow travelers on the quest of “finding ourselves” a.k.a. life. Some people say this is a task that can be fully accomplished and completed in the early stage of life. Can it? I mean can we truly ever find ourselves in a full capacity? We are constantly learning, growing and changing. we are not static creatures. We are faced with new challenges and new ideas almost everyday. We learn from each and every experience. Life is a constant continuation of experiences. Like a film roll, each frame an experience, a moment that shape us and changes us. Some frames are monumental some are minimal. Yet each of these frames connect to make film, a life, a quest.
So is there a consistency in life? Yes, there is, a constant desire to hold the changes and the people we love close to our hearts. Keeping those things we love most close creates a constancy. Remember that when is comes to the involvement of other people we must recognize that other people are also going through this adventure called life, the same quest of find them selves and what life can be. We must try not to stifle that growth, but grow with them as that particular relationship grows. I say this for friends and lovers. Things do change and it takes work to keep things going in the way we want. To keep those that are close we must let them grow and let the relationship grow, while working at it all at the same time.
So we will all always be finding new parts of ourselves? At some point, yes we feel more lost than at other times, but it is in that loosing of ourselves, our hearts and maybe our minds that we find new depths, new strengths. We find what things can devour our hopes and joy and how simple and destructive pain can be.
Pain is a part of the journey it is needed as much as we need a cup of coffee in the morning. In fact is is very similar to a cup of coffee. It is dark, sometimes burns, but it does what is suppose to do. It jolts us, strikes us across the face and spurs emotions. Sometimes those emotions are similar to being lit on fire, just pain, yet it still stirs us in some way or another so that we learn and grow from it. This pain can come different forms any sort of failure, the loss of someone, a another person, friend, family member, lover or career.
Sometimes things don’t workout quite the way we think. However than means we must find another way to make ourselves happy. Happiness and what we want isn’t just going to set itself up for us. We have to live for it.
As we travel we come to the signs in the road that divide the path into two ways. (Frost had it right.) Easy and smooth, the other painful and hard work. Yet what we don’t know is what is at the end of each path. Most likely it turns into another path. It could turn into one that maybe easier than the fork before or harder just the same.
So we quest, we do our best and what we believe is the right choice. Sometimes we’re wrong, sometimes we’re right. Right or wrong were justified in the fact that we have to lead our lives to learn and find it all out. Many times we find out we were wrong and have to try to fix the mistake we made, but as long as we still learn from the mistake. Also as long a those who love us see that we were trying to do what we thought was right, we will be forgiven and still loved just the same. Yet that takes a lot from an individual to put emotions aside and see what is happening in the frame. That like I said when someone is in that said “frame” there is always more to be seen than the obvious.
It takes great courage and love to put aside emotions and just look at it all. To take each event in life and live it while still watching it too.
This life is journey that we are all on. Some parts we can take with others, other parts it is up to us to fend for ourselves. (Make sure you stop at the weapons store)
Fighting for our dreams and desires is a constant. Life a is a constance as much as it changes.
In the end we have to trust that it will all be alright. Somehow, someway, it will be alright.
Happy travels.
